Forgiveness and My River

Forgiveness and My River

We hear the adage that holding onto anger and resentment poisons us, not others. It specifically increases our risk of heart disease, increased blood pressure and weakens our immune system (increasing our risk to many diseases, viruses and chronic immune conditions), When we release ourselves from this heavy toxic energy (and we can only control our actions) we can grow, and change. We can move into health with an increased vibration. We no longer feel stuck and we are able to see all of the little joys of life, as we are not blanketed by this oppressive energy.

There is actually a scientific reason for this. Forgiveness and letting go of resentment rewires our brain! It reduces activity in our amygdala which is associated with fear and anger and increases our activity in the areas related to empathy and emotional control.

Now who doesn’t want all this? Because, as our vibration and our health increases as does our ability to see, create and manifest a beautiful world for ourselves. Creation happens in joyful, playful vibration and so we need to get there!!

First of all- do you want to? Do you want to let go? Even if you were right? Even if you were hurt? Even if it sucked and it wasn’t fair? Do you still want to let it go? Do you want to stop talking about it and stop living in it? Do you want to release yourself from this prison of oppressive energy? Cause you have to really want it.

Acknowledge to yourself. I am hurt. I am mad. This sucks. I didn’t choose this. It is not fair AND I choose to let it go!

Notice we don’t say anything about the other person... their journey is not our business.. Yes Yes.. And it’s not right and it is not fair! AND it is not our business. Our business is US.

So... Acknowledge all those crappy feelings, build them up in your body. Feel the weight of them! Heavy Pressure, keeping you down, keeping you stuck? Good. Doesn’t feel good – does it? Can you even identify where in your body it sits? I bet you can!

Get yourself comfortable now. Stretch out your feet. Get a blanket? Close your eyes and take deep breaths in and long long breaths out. Keep going. Give yourself a few minutes here. We just identified where your body was stuck and so give yourself this time.

Relax your feet, moving up your legs, hips, belly and back and letting your muscles release. Drop your shoulders down and release your arms and hands. Soften your jaw and relax all the muscles behind your eyes and forehead. And keep breathing.

When you are in a good place, I want you just imagine, only imagine that you are in a sturdy floaty and you are floating down this nice lazy river. You are warm, comfortable, feeling the buoyancy and lightness of your body, feeling the sun on your shoulders. Not a care in this world.

As you travel down this river slowly and comfortably you start to be aware of people and situations on the shores that you have carried in your life, some with resentment, some with anger, fear or just plain fatigue.

You notice how far you are away from these people, from the shore, how they being there doesn’t affect your peace, your float and the warm sunshine on your face. Notice how the flow of the water stays the same, supporting you, taking you lazily down your life, for this is the River of Your life and you are in the centre flow of it. Notice how light you feel in your body as these images on the shoreline pass, for to engage with them you would have to paddle upstream against the current and why would you do this? You are content in the sunshine. That heaviness in your body has slipped away and you weren’t even aware of when that happened.

Allow yourself to keep floating on your river, in the sunshine, feeling content and warm and lighter and lighter until all the people and situations on the banks have completely gone and you feel better than you ever have before, trusting the river has you, the sun kisses you and you are supported in the Universe.

I invite you to do this again as needed and to put a spin on this, to deepen your practice. Float down your River on a raft of Self forgiveness (and this is really the crux of the matter)

Repeating these statements that apply and some of your own... watching as they slip by unattached to you on the banks of the river.

I forgive myself for being hard on myself, for not being what I think is perfect.

I forgive myself for doubting myself and not trusting what I know to be right and true

I forgive myself for letting myself down and making decisions that put me last, for ignoring my own needs and wants and desires.

I forgive myself for any name calling I have done to myself, bullying myself, for carrying shame that I have collected in this world

I forgive myself for not treating my heart and my body with respect and love.

I forgive myself for not loving myself and not allowing myself to receive love from others and the universe

Float down your river until you feel peace and the love of the sunshine.

I hope our two rivers meet soon... all my love, Robin